Success and Happiness are two different things

A lot of people assume that success leads to happiness. “If I achieve goal X, I will be happy.” That type of conditional thinking only leads to unhappiness. 

Happiness is a state of mind that only happens in the present moment. And your state of mind can be different from moment to moment. The ultimate goal of meditation is to reach a state of mind that’s consistently tranquil—free from suffering.

But success is not a state of mind. It’s a process with a beginning and an end. You set a goal, you start working on it, and you either succeed or fail. Either way, there’s a moment of reckoning. 

Prioritizing Happiness Today

Let us know what it takes to feel happy today. Just look at the source of your unhappiness, and get it out of your life. What causes unhappiness? 

  1. Overthinking: The biggest cause of unhappiness is our own minds. If we can stop listening to our thoughts and focus on what’s in front of us, we instantly feel better.
  2. Being in bad shape: When you don’t work out and eat a lot of junk food, you feel bad physically. And when your body feels bad by your own doing, you also feel bad mentally. Being sick or injured is different because you can’t control that. But being in bad shape is something you do to yourself.
  3. Dead-end career: You spend most of your time at work, and if you despise your job, it’s no wonder you don’t feel happy. You can instead invest in yourself, learn new skills, and find another job or career.
  4. Toxic relationships: Some people are just not a good fit. When you try to force a relationship, no one wins. But so many people insist on “making it work” because they are afraid to be alone. So they are stuck in the middle, which is where unhappiness lives.
  5. Negative friends: Some people are annoying and negative. Being around those people is not good for your state of mind. You’d rather be rid of them than have them in your life.

As you can see it’s not easy. We have to make some difficult choices to be happy. But all these choices happen in the present. And you can’t solve it by just tolerating pain. Sure, that works for achieving your goals. But not for happiness. 

If you simply take care of at least two of the things on the list above, you will instantly feel better. And the good news is that all these things are within your control. Which one will you work on first?